Precious gifts
posted by Barb K @ 10:26 PM
From my heart
About Me
- Name: Barb K
- Location: Illinois, United States
I have walked 60 miles for suicide prevention to honor Laurie. I have sky dived twice, visited South Africa, Malaysia, worked with Student Impact 5 years, lead small groups who have experienced child loss at Grief Support and have a blessed life. God is with me.
Great Links
- Laurie Boncimino
- A Place to Process - Greg Boncimino
- From the Desk of Ashley Boncimino - Ashley Boncimino
- Argillaceous - Katie Michel
- Pixie Dust - Amanda Peszat
- tRANsFORMATIONsEVE - Eve Rickert
- Nitty Gritty - Jodi
- Riddlin' Diddlin' and Country Fiddlin' - Drew Brown
- TATTOOME - Gail
- Yahoo!
Previous Posts
- Is she not the sweetest?
- Okay, this is weird...
- The clan...
- What I did on my Christmas vacation...
- Laurie's first Christmas in Heaven...
- "Twas the night after Christmas"
- Our carolers...
- Who Am I ?
- How did this get...
- to this?
10 Comments:
What a mistake Katie has made...
Such precious little gifts from God...I pray that God will hold them close, guide them, help them to feel His love, and protect them each and every day. God bless you all!
There no such thing as a mistake... only an accident waiting to be fixed...
Sometimes those accidents are fixed, sometimes they are not... but nothing is ever beyond repair, and NOTHING is ever beyond redemption.
Thank you, Anna. Not knowing all the details, I suppose one could cast a judgement but it would be wrong to make that call. Trying to get better from a lifetime of losses is a hard thing to do. I have not walked in her shoes; I will not judge her. I will only try to support her.
I don't think Anonymous is judging here. we should all get clear on this. Katie is making a mistake. We love her no matter what.
SS
I talk to people weekly in my counseling office who go AWOL from their responsibilities, with no intention of reconciliation and restoration. They want only what they want, as though God's highest concern for us were our happiness.
This does NOT describe Katie. She is a perceptive, sensitive, brilliant, and engaging young woman who has sustained staggering loss in a concentrated span of time--the magnitude of which is far greater than most people realize. So much loss takes an inevitable toll. Individuals cope in different ways. Nothing profound here. Just a reminder...
God is at work in Katie's life. Wouldn't the most gracious posture be to cease from chastising her, as if she were unable to grasp the ramifications of her absence?
Katie gets it. I submit that she needs safe harbor--not battering rams.
I believe her spirit is bruised and bleeding, but magnificently resilient. I would guess that experiencing "defragmentation" (for lack of a better word), in such a public arena, multiplies the sorrow of the fire she's walking through.
When we love someone who is overcome, (and as we are all "bent" creatures, NONE of us are immune to being overcome at some juncture in life's journey) we aren't assigning a letter grade to their choices.
Rather, we are pledging support that we will continue to intercede for our hurting brother or sister, and ask God, who is able and in control, to accomplish His perfect will in his/her life, burning out the dross, refining the gold, and lovingly forming the character of His Son within.
The Holy Spirit is wholly capable, is He not, of convicting each of us whenever we fail to walk in a manner worthy of our calling? To be one another's Holy Spirit is perilous, and vastly different than "speaking the truth in love," to one another.
Barb, I salute you. My heart learns priceless truths from you in these "Job" moments. Thank you so very much for posting with such a note of hope in Him Who is ever faithful.
Katie, I love you dearly and for always. And you too Tommy and precious children. -Deb D.
D. Dunlap--That was wonderful!
Your comment is a gentle reminder of something we all need to think about. Let's focus our energy on supporting and surrounding ALL of this family with prayer.
Debi = GOOD WORDS.
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amen.
A little timely wisdom from Henri Nouwen:
"To the degree that we accept that through Christ we ourselves have been reconciled with God we can be messengers of reconciliation for others. Essential to the work of reconciliation is a nonjudgmental presence. We are not sent to the world to judge, to condemn, to evaluate, to classify, or to label. When we walk around as if we have to make up our mind about people and tell them what is wrong with them and how they should change, we will only create more division. Jesus says it clearly: "Be compassionate just as your Father is compassionate. Do not judge; ... do not condemn; ... forgive" (Luke 6:36-37).
In a world that constantly asks us to make up our minds about other people, a nonjudgmental presence seems nearly impossible. But it is one of the most beautiful fruits of a deep spiritual life and will be easily recognized by those who long for reconciliation."
You are truly an inspiration...I am praying for you and your family at this time!
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