Boo, Anonymous. Are you happy now?
I know blogging means a lot of different things to people. Blogs can be self-serving, blogs can be places to learn and grow. Blogs can inspire. Blogs can be tools in business.
For me writing this blog has been a journey, a journal and just a way to get out what's inside. The joy has come in reading other's blogs, and especially my kids' and grandkids' blogs. I am so sad to read now that Greg has decided to stop his blog, mostly because of the aggravation of anonymous comments. Greg is one of those guys who has a pure heart, a sense of truth, a passion for God and his family, the willingness to share the deepest parts of himself, especially as we have gone down the road of grief at losing Laurie.
I will not lie and say that comments do not effect me. And especially those that have encouraged, those have really been so helpful to me. I think it is similiar for Greg so whether an anonymous commenter thought their comments innocuous or minimally "informative" or they are just sarcastic sorts, it still stings. I have asked Greg to consider going to a private (by invitation) blog. What he writes helps many of us here back in the US know how they are doing and how to pray for them. The one thing I am so grateful for is to have been able to read all those words Greg has honestly poured out. How many moms get to know, really know, what is going on in the heart and mind of their 30 something son? That is a gift, a gift I still hope to keep receiving.
The pictures added here are from Aunt Sara with the yellow hair and Jake's wedding last weekend. A beautiful wedding, a beautiful family. I had a trip to New Jersey for business early last week and that was important. I needed some time to recoup from an emotional crash land also last weekend. I think the take away verse from church today was aimed at me. "Do not be afraid. Stand firm and you will see the deliverance the Lord will bring you today." Exodus 14:13
posted by Barb K @ 8:36 PM
19 Comments:
I agree that it's frustrating about what some anonymous commenters have said on all the blogs. It's incomprehensible why they come just to do that :( I feel bad as I have not really wanted to share my name on any of these since I don't know any of you personally. But some of us anonymous commenters do have some positive things to share and reasons why we read each blog. You are all an inspiration.
To Greg: Your blog was absolutely great! If you decide upon more eventually, that's awesome, but if not, it's been a joy while it lasted and thank you for being so kind as to share so much with all of us. I am starting to run now and really don't even see how more than 10 miles at this moment is possible, but each and every post that talks about your running has shown me A LOT more than 10 miles is possible! Thanks for that :) And all the best!
And I am another anonymous poster who has had the privilege of growing and learning with the Boncimino family since day one...
It is sad that the actions of some can cause a desensitizing reaction. I too, will miss Greg's entries and hearing of all the joy & pain that accompanies moving a family across the globe and adapting to a different culture. It has been an amazing journey, and I am grateful for having had the chance to read in on it all.
To you Barb, my heartfelt thanks for what you have done for those of us who take your words, straight TO the heart. You are truly a gift from God, and we are lucky to have found YOU!
As ever-
Camille
Just another anonymous one here ... I will miss Greg's wisdom and humor. Could he be convinced (are you reading this Greg?!!) to maybe not allow anonymous comments? I feel selfish but I don't want his blog to end!
I, too, have enjoyed Greg's blog and although I do do not what the hurtful comments were, my philosophy in life when something similar happens face-to-face is to say, "consider the source." In other words, as Barb said, some anonymous comments are worth retaining in my memory bank and others should be "blown off."
I agree with Greg continuing the blog, but not accepting anonymous comments. Katie overcame a lot of criticism. I'm surprised Greg is taking this so personal. Please reconsider. Not all anonymous people are bad.
I too am anonymous, not really commenting, but learning from your family, I too lost a son in an accident not suicide, non the less losing a child is so difficult, painful, so I come in to read your family blogs, it helps me, shows me while the pain is still there we can move forward. I love heating about Greg and his family life experiences in another country..learn alot about the culture there from him. I love seeing how well Katie is doing, I am sure she still has her struggles but she seems to be so much happier now, its a pleasure to watch her grow.
Isn't there a way that if someone posts it has to be approved befor it hits the blog? that is a feature on my sons guest book. just a thought.
Hope you all remain here!!!
It's me Gail, I hate the thought of Greg's blog not being there. Besides yours Barb I only really read Greg's. No one else writes as much as You
Greg and I. I love hearing how they are doing in Asia. Please Greg don't end, Just let certain people read it...I love you...Gail
Big hugs :)
i really wish Greg did not make his blog password protected by invitation only. some people enjoy reading the encouraging words, but don't wish to identify themselves. i guess i'll have to seek encouraging inspirations from somewhere else, because i'm not ready to open up yet. so sad.
Dear Anonymous of October 23, 2007 10:27 AM
Go ahead and be brave. Besides an email address and an interest, that's all you need. Greg won't really need your shoe size, mother's maiden name, etc. I signed in to another blog where I don't know the writer but love what she writes. Think about it anyway? In Him, Barb
I might as well be anonymous - because I don't know any Boncimino's personally - I started reading the entire family's blog when it first started. I heard the plea on Channel 5, a missing college student - my heart sank, it always does when I hear those stories because I know, I know what the possibilities are...
I followed the news on tv, in the paper, follwoing the webpage that was put up in her memory.
I have since come to know this wonderful family that is normal, like every other family, it has it's ups and down, but the one thing it has that just amazes me is the love and support of each member towards each other, and to Him...it's inspiring.
I'm sad to read that Greg won't continue his blog, but it's his choice, and though he only thought he had 3 readers, he had many, many who never commented, many who commented anonymously, friends, and family.
Greg, just an idea, can you have a blog, but no comments? or make the comments require a sign-in? Is it possible. I truly love your insight, and am taken aback by your energy - so much travel, work and family and you still find time to run so many miles!
Best to everyone,
Yvette
I really wish Greg would not restrict his blog to invitation only. You can set a blog to not accept "anonymous" comments without resticting everyone else from staying up to date on the Boncimino family ventures from Malaysia. It's a shame so many of us will miss out on reading some very good blog content. Believe it or not, some of us don't have private e-mail addresses, so I guess we're just out of luck. Boo.
I agree - Greg, your blogs have been great. I have been reading the Boncimino family blogs ever since Laurie's disappearance. It's comforting to read everyone's blogs...I've gained a lot of strength in my life by reading them. I understand though, how others words can hurt.
Jenna
Formerly from BG
Oh...that burns my rear (did I just say...my grnadma always said that! I just don't get why people feel the need to be so dang rude!
Let's all pray for the Cutler family.
The Cutler family is from Buffalo Grove and their 18 year old son has gone missing since last Saturday. Our family has been praying ever since we saw the first news. Each day I read of some parts that are too similiar, even to the point that the Buffalo Grove police are responding to the family as if it were their chid, much of what we found when Laurie was missing. Anonymous, thanks for the reminder to be praying. Barb
Hi, I'm another anonymous. I will sadly miss your son's blog. When they were sick with food problems in Malaysia, I prayed for them. When they left I was so happy for them. Greg gave such insight into his family, his 'girls'. You know, both you and Greg and daughter and friends are hero's, and of course you are survivors. Please tell Greg there's another person that will miss 'Boncinimo in Asia' blog and his pix's of his girls :( A heartfelt thank you! to you and your family. Thank you. I will miss Greg's words, he's wise.
Kate
know that even if he doesn't keep up with his blog and i won't know how to specifically pray for him, i will continue my prayer for him nonetheless, cuz God knows.
Man, first Greg and now Ashley. I hate losing insight into the Boncimino Malaysian Adventures. Maybe one day they'll blog public again.
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